I posted this in thanks to my sister tonight. I've come to some realizations in the last few days, and now that I've come to these realizations (I spent 11 years in denial, that's for sure!), I need to make peace with them and let them go. Doing this will keep me true to my resolution.
I'm so lucky to have such a wonderful sister. She is a wonderful listener, and a wonderful mentor. I love you so much. And thank you.